To begin, try a few of the following suggestions for better group practice:
- Address the group as a whole. Avoid directing your words to one or two persons. Make yourself heard by your whole group.
- Remember that it is most useful to listen, hear, and understand.
- Avoid giving advice. Share experience, opinion, and understanding.
- Remember that a speakers words may prove a precious gift. She is probably doing here honest best and her best to be honest.
- Avoid interrupting a speaker. Your group will have ways of dealing with those who are not following the agreed upon rules of your group.
- Keep expenses to a minimum. Everyone helps to take care of necessary expenses. Do your part.
- Really listen to what another is saying. Improved understanding is an aim of your group.
- Learn to listen well. You can gain greater listening skills.
- Encourage everyone to say something at each meeting. The words of each are gifts for us all. Some groups have made it mandatory to say one’s name and to try to name the topic.
- Usually limit speaking time to one or two minutes. It’s great to have time to speak more than once a a single meeting.
- Remember that focusing dialogue on personal experience is a good practice.
- Get 8 or 9 interested persons to commit to 4 or 5 consecutive meeting before your first first real practice.
by Richard Sheehan
for Mago Bill II